Self-esteem is a term used to reflect a person’s overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth.
It is important to accept and like who you are as a person in order to develop a healthy self-esteem. People with a low self-esteem will generally have a negative opinion of themselves.
Low self-esteem can also very often be linked to negative or difficult experiences during childhood. Being bullied, criticised and judged negatively by others may have a significant impact on someone’s self-esteem. As a result, the person may develop negative core beliefs.
There are a number of emotions commonly associated with low self-esteem in children and adolescents, including:
- Anger;
- Frustration;
- Anxiety;
- Sadness;
- Depression; and
- Guilt.
The individual with a low self esteem may find themselves frequently thinking the following:
- I am stupid;
- It is my fault;
- I am not good enough;
- I am bad;
- I am worthless.
As a consequence of experiencing low self esteem, children may present with the following behaviours:
- Defensiveness;
- Shyness;
- Avoidance;
- Neglectfulness.
People with low self-esteem have difficulty in valuing themselves and may have issues with alcohol and drugs. They may also not bother about their physical appearance.
When your Child has a Low Self Esteem
Children with low self esteem often feel unloved and unwanted. They tend to put themselves down, do not believe in their ability to do things and are easily manipulated by others.
They may avoid activities/events such as sporting competitions or art classes, for fear of attracting negative comments or evaluation. For these reasons they may have difficulties engaging in recreational activities.
In contrast, children who have developed a good self esteem often know how to deal with their emotions, take pride in their abilities and act independently.
Seeing a psychologist will help your child to make changes and start to value themselves. So, do not delay and make an appointment for your child/adolescent with me.
Author: Meggy Delaunay, PG Dip Psych Practice, PG Dip Dev Psych, M Genetic Psych, B Psych, MAPS.
Meggy Delaunay is a psychologist who primarily works with children, adolescents and young adults. She is a registered Psychologist in Australia, New Zealand and France, and can provide therapy sessions in English and French.
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